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How to Not Sabotage Your Dream…Part 2

In my last post I shared with you on “How to Not Sabotage Your Dream”, and I’m continuing with that theme today.  I think failure can easily be an inside job, and below I’ve listed some more ways that we can sabotage the dreams that we have.

Victim Mentality - It is so easy to blame others for our own problems especially if they were the actual cause!  It can be fun and therapeutic to have a pity party because of what someone else did to you, but too many people blame the government, parents, teachers, etc. for the troubles they have in life.  Unfortunately, victimized thinking will never get you on the road to your dream, it will always leave you complaining and disenfranchised.

The easiest way to break the cycle of victim thinking is to take responsibility for your life.  Realize that you can’t change what someone else did to you, but you can move on.  This is not to make light of our past or pain, but we can use our pain as a crutch and an excuse to not move on.  Victims also expect certain things because of what they have went through.  Nothing is free in life.  The sabotage occurs when the pain of what someone did to you handicaps you from moving forward.

Lack of Organization - Michael Gerber says “Great people have a vision of their lives that they practice emulating each and every day.”  Do you know what the vision/dream of your life is?  If you do then you should have it written down and take the necessary steps to get there.  A sure way of sabotaging the dreams is by not organizing your life in a manner to get there.  Everyone has a dream, but those who live the dream don’t just talk about it, they go after it! [Tweet This].

I’ve tried to live my life and organize my day on purpose, if I don’t then I will spend my day meandering.  If you are constantly distracted and unorganized then you will never be truly productive.  I try and start off each day defining that days priorities and organizing my tasks around those priorities.  It doesn’t always happen, but I try.  What can you do today to get closer to your dream?  Have a plan everyday and work it.

Lack of Character - Not many people are talking about character development today, but without it you can only go so far.  Nothing you have accomplished in life is so great that one error in judgement can’t bring down.  What brings down organizations and people faster than anything is a lack of character.  John Maxwell says “talent is a gift, but character is a choice.”  You may have a unique talent that can bring you a lot of success, but the only thing that will keep you there is having character.

Character should be your foundation.  The pyramids in Egypt have stood for more than 4,000 years because they had a good foundation.  You can’t see the foundation, but you can see the benefits of having it.  Character can at times be invisible (its what you are doing when no one is looking) but your dream can come crumbling down without it.  Are you choosing character?

So far I’ve shared six ways to sabotage your dream:  lack of hustle, listening to the wrong voices, negative thinking, victim mentality, lack of organization, and character.  Can you think of some other ways that dreams can be sabotaged?

  • pklove

    This is one of my favorite posts thus far! I’m going to reblog/share it (of course, with credits attributed).

    • http://lukeroland.com/ Luke Roland

      Pangshua THANKS!!!! Share as much as you like!

  • Janet Tyler Johnson

    Luke: I agree totally with what you’ve written, and would add, as a fee-only financial planner, that you have to prepare financially for that dream. For instance, if you are going to start a business, where is your start up funding going to come from, how much will you need, how and when will revenue start to come in? Most small businesses fail because they were underfunded to begin with. I left corporate America in 2005 and started my own Investment Management and coaching business (among other things) and self-funded the entire thing. My husband had a job and had our benefits taken care of so I didn’t have to worry about that but things would have been easier if I had saved even more money than I did in the beginning. My business is thriving but many people were hurt in the 2008-2009 economic disaster and didn’t make it through. Planning is essential. Planning for all the good things, and all the possible things that could go wrong. Whether we like it or not, it usually takes money and planning to make our dreams come true. (And as a woman with a BS in Metaphysics, I heartily agree that all the things you mentioned are just as essential.)

    Janet Tyler Johnson, Author

    • http://lukeroland.com/ Luke Roland

      JANET! Thanks for sharing your comments! I just gone writing a third part to this post and one of the topics I’m going to write about is finances. Thanks for sharing your insights on this!

  • Janet Tyler Johnson

    Great Luke! I look forward to your post. I’m working on a new book called Affluence (being in the flow of abundance, although that’s not the tagline — I’m still waiting for that to show up) so I may just chime in again. :)

  • http://christiannick.com/ Nick Christian

    Luke, Thanks for this post. I really needed to hear the first point you made about getting over victim mentality. In fact, it was the third exhortation I heard on it today. Thanks, I am off to change my attitude!

    • http://lukeroland.com/ Luke Roland

      Hey Nick! YES! I have to change my attitude all the time!

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