In my last post I shared with you on “How to Not Sabotage Your Dream”, and I’m continuing with that theme today. I think failure can easily be an inside job, and below I’ve listed some more ways that we can sabotage the dreams that we have.
Victim Mentality – It is so easy to blame others for our own problems especially if they were the actual cause! It can be fun and therapeutic to have a pity party because of what someone else did to you, but too many people blame the government, parents, teachers, etc. for the troubles they have in life. Unfortunately, victimized thinking will never get you on the road to your dream, it will always leave you complaining and disenfranchised.
The easiest way to break the cycle of victim thinking is to take responsibility for your life. Realize that you can’t change what someone else did to you, but you can move on. This is not to make light of our past or pain, but we can use our pain as a crutch and an excuse to not move on. Victims also expect certain things because of what they have went through. Nothing is free in life. The sabotage occurs when the pain of what someone did to you handicaps you from moving forward.
Lack of Organization – Michael Gerber says “Great people have a vision of their lives that they practice emulating each and every day.” Do you know what the vision/dream of your life is? If you do then you should have it written down and take the necessary steps to get there. A sure way of sabotaging the dreams is by not organizing your life in a manner to get there. Everyone has a dream, but those who live the dream don’t just talk about it, they go after it! [Tweet This].
I’ve tried to live my life and organize my day on purpose, if I don’t then I will spend my day meandering. If you are constantly distracted and unorganized then you will never be truly productive. I try and start off each day defining that days priorities and organizing my tasks around those priorities. It doesn’t always happen, but I try. What can you do today to get closer to your dream? Have a plan everyday and work it.
Lack of Character – Not many people are talking about character development today, but without it you can only go so far. Nothing you have accomplished in life is so great that one error in judgement can’t bring down. What brings down organizations and people faster than anything is a lack of character. John Maxwell says “talent is a gift, but character is a choice.” You may have a unique talent that can bring you a lot of success, but the only thing that will keep you there is having character.
Character should be your foundation. The pyramids in Egypt have stood for more than 4,000 years because they had a good foundation. You can’t see the foundation, but you can see the benefits of having it. Character can at times be invisible (its what you are doing when no one is looking) but your dream can come crumbling down without it. Are you choosing character?
So far I’ve shared six ways to sabotage your dream: lack of hustle, listening to the wrong voices, negative thinking, victim mentality, lack of organization, and character. Can you think of some other ways that dreams can be sabotaged?