Today is my anniversary! Jessica and I have been married 7 years today. As I look back over the years there is a lot I have learned on what makes a good marriage. In honor of my wife and our anniversary I wanted to share a few things I have learned. This is by no means a comprehensive list, in fact I would love for you to share in the comments what has made your marriage great because I am still learning!
Marriage is Teamwork
My wife is not only my soulmate but she is my teammate. Jessica and I try to live life and parent with the idea that we are on the same team. It doesn’t always work out perfectly, but I think we both have a good sense of unity and agreement in our marriage. I never have to worry if she is working against me, and I never work against her.
Marriage Requires Encouragement
My wife is my greatest encourager. Jessica knows how to encourage and make me feel like I’m the most important person in her life. When I’m down no one can lift me like she can. As I look over these last 7 years I have never heard her say anything to discourage me. We have disagreements and arguments, but I’ve never once felt disrespected or less than. Even when I share one of my crazy dreams with her she always encourages me. She believes in me more than myself! Never let anyone praise or encourage your spouse more than you!
Marriage is a Friendship
When my wife and I first met in college our relationship began as a friendship, and we are still best friends today. At the end of the day I would rather spend time with Jessica than anyone else. More than a celebrity, friend, or the president. I love her company! Never get caught up in the duty of marriage that you miss out on the greatest friendship you could have.
Marriage Requires Transparency
My wife is my confidant and I keep nothing from her. There is no one that knows me like Jessica. I share my secrets with her. I share my crazy dreams with her. I share my fears, my hurts, and my insecurities with her. She knows me better than anyone. I don’t know what I would do if I didn’t have her there to listen. Don’t let anyone know you better than your spouse.
Marriage Requires Growth
This last year I feel like we have grown a lot closer together. We have experienced so much this last year that it has caused us to lean into each other more as we’ve gone through life. It probably helps when you live in an 800 sq. ft. home. We have had so many ups and downs that we have faced this year, including:
- Jessica was in the hospital for several weeks with complications in her last pregnancy
- Our daughter was born premature
- We decided it was best for Jessica to quit her great job so she could be a stay at home mother
- They say moving is one of the most stressful things you can do so we decided to take it up a notch and move to NYC which brings with it a whole host of challenges
There are more, but those are the highlights. I’ve really learned the importance of being together on every change and transition. It makes life so much easier to be working together as a team.
There is so much I love about my wife. There is no one I would rather be doing life with than her. There is no one I would rather live the dream with. She is better than good to me, and an incredible mother. I love you babe, happy anniversary!