One thing I have been thinking about lately is my identity and the things that define me. I’ve met people that have been the victim of identity theft and it can be a very frustrating thing to deal with. As I thought about identity theft I realized that we can also lose our identity…our REAL identity…who we really are on the inside. Are there ways we can avoid identity theft?
The word definition can be defined as: “a statement expressing the essential nature of something.” I believe we all have an essential nature. There is something about us that is unique that cannot be used to define someone else. We are all wonderfully made and unique in our own way.
However, so many other things can define us. My accent defines me. My height defines me. My weight defines me. My income defines me. Me being from the south defines me. All of these things are characteristics of me and are found by looking at my external, but none of these things really get to the heart of who I really am.
We have all heard people say “If you look up X in the dictionary you will see X’s face.” For example: “if you look up crazy in the dictionary you will see Luke’s face.” It doesn’t have to be that way (I am a little crazy…ask my wife!).
I’ve come to the conclusion if you don’t define yourself someone else will do it for you [click to tweet]. Each one of us has a unique identity. Each one of us was born with different gifts and talents that others are not graced with. There are billions of people in the world and not one of them has a finger print like yours. That is how unique your identity is.
The sad reality is that even though we have this uniqueness it can be robbed if we do not maintain control over it. We can be a victim of identity theft. It is so easy to let words and other people define us. How can someone who did not make you have the ability to define who you are? We easily buy into the lies of what other people project on us, instead of figuring out our own unique self.
One of the hardest barriers I’ve had to break through in life is how other people identify me. My career has been so eclectic and full of variety, and the difficulty with that is people associate and identify me based on either what I’m doing or what I did. Is that really who Luke is? Sure those are things that I’ve done or I am doing, but is that the real me, and is that all I’m capable of doing?
Our identity is a discovery. Truth is being who you are. When you are not yourself then you are not only deceiving yourself but those around you. We are operating in fear when we are not being our true self. We have a fear that others will not approve of us if we are our true self. Your dream is connected to the real you, and if you are not being the real you then your dream will lie dormant.
John Maxwell said “No matter how hard you try, you cannot consistently behave in a way that is inconsistent with how you see yourself.” Do you know the real you? How you view yourself determines your actions. Not knowing your true identity will always impact your character, talent, and relationships.
If you really know who you are then it brings a security, a peace, a joy that you can’t find anywhere else. The greatest journey is a discovery of self [click to tweet]. When you find who you really are no one can steal that from you. Where do you begin the discovery of self?
A few challenges for you:
1. How do you see yourself?
2. Find out who you really are.
3. Be the real you